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    Is Porn Empowering?

    Posted at 20:16 on 5 Mar 2015 by Nimue Allen

    "Can porn be empowering for women?"

    That’s the question being asked a lot this week, prompted by the Women’s Hour debate which took place on Sunday, asking this question. I was not able to attend the debate unlike people who have blogged about it already, but I wanted to add my thoughts on the matter.

    Very simply, I believe that yes, porn can be empowering for women. I’m not going to argue that all porn is empowering for all women, because I don’t believe that is the case at all, there is a lot of porn which is problematic for both female performers and viewers. But I believe that I, and a lot of other women can gain a lot from watching porn, feminist porn in particular.

    I have benefitted from porn in two ways - personally and professionally.

    Long before I started making porn (as a performer, then producer), I was a porn consumer. I watched quite a lot of it, mostly bdsm and fetish porn. The porn I watched allowed me to see that other people had the same desires I did. That I was not unusual in wanting to play in the more extreme parts of bdsm. It helped me to feel less alone.

    A lot of the things I now count as my favourite things to do I first explored via porn. Watching others do the things I fantasised about was the first step to turning those things into my reality. Porn gave me the safe space in which I could see these things happening for real, to explore how that reality matched up with my fantasies, and whether they were things that I did want to bring to life for myself, or to keep as something to just think about.

    As a performer and producer I hope to give others the same reassurance and validation that I got through porn. I want to show that women of different shapes and sizes can enjoy being sexual.

    Being able to run my own business, performing in and making the sort of porn I enjoy has empowered me greatly. It’s taken me from being on benefits to being self-sufficient. It’s given me a job which I am able to work around my health issues. Is it the job I imagined myself doing when I was at school? No. But it’s a job that works for me, and I love it.

    Pandora has also blogged her thoughts after the debate, you can see what she has to say over at her blog.
     

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    Couldn't agree more

    I agree.
    I was a late bloomer and rather shy and porn for me allowed me to explore without embarrassment as a youth. I knew what I liked but was not able to explore it. It was still weird and kinky which was not always not always easy to explain or "act out" when your young.
    But... It allowed me to solidify my desires and not be completely embarrassed because he'll... Other people are doing it and filming it.
    When I aged, and began to employ my will on my sexual partners I quickly realized they were searching for it too. Or utterly enjoyed it.
    I wasn't late or wired. I was ahead of my time.
    Cudo's to you Nimue! Let's show the world what they have been missing!
    Again, your awesome!
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